We’ve made it one whole month! It’s gone by so fast, yet so slow, all at the same time. Our days are eat, sleep, repeat. I’m looking forward to the days when I’m not counting the minutes until my next nap, but I’ve also been enjoying these newborn days with my girl so much more than I thought I would.
Breastfeeding is going so well! So much better than I expected for sure. Around week 3 I started texting friends asking how much longer until my nipples aren’t so sore, but it’s gotten better since then. I no longer have to suffer through the first 30 seconds until it feels better. I mean, it’s not the most comfortable thing in the world, but it doesn’t really hurt anymore.
We’re still on a pretty solid 3-hour feeding schedule. As she’s gotten a little older it’s gotten easier to keep her awake to take full feedings so she hardly ever wants to eat before the 3 hour mark. If she acts hungry, I nurse her, but like I said, that hasn’t been happening lately.
During the night she has started going a little longer between feedings, and I’ve been letting her because she’s gaining weight so well and having a good number of wet and dirty diapers. Speaking of dirty diapers, she poops ALL day long. It’s like a continuous stream of poo. I’ll be glad when that slows down in a few weeks because she ended up getting a crazy bad diaper rash that has left her with some red sores on her little baby booty. I want them to heal ASAP so I’ve been changing her nonstop. At night I’ve been trying to change her less because she’s started sleeping longer. She can go about 3-4 hours between feedings at night, so she wakes up twice during the night to eat. I’ve started pumping 1-2 hours after her last feeding of the day so that when she wakes up around 1-2 a.m. my sister or Gary can give her a bottle, and I can just pump and go back to bed while they get her back to sleep. The past few days I haven’t been doing this though because she’s been staying asleep during MOTN feedings so it’s easier to nurse her and put her right back to bed.
Everly is still a really great sleeper. I mean, she’s still a tiny baby so there’s lots of patting and shushing going on, but we’re working on doing less of that so she doesn’t have to rely on me to get to sleep and stay asleep. I read The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems, and I’ve started implementing the Four S’s for sleep training. So far it’s going really well! She’s still too little for me to be comfortable letting her cry at all so the Four S’s is a perfect sleep training method for us right now. She takes 1.5-2 hour naps during the day. At night, she has pretty much stuck to her 3-hour schedule, but occasionally we’ll get a 4-hour stretch in there, and I’ll get 3 consecutive hours of sleep, which is amazing! The best thing to happen lately is that she stays asleep for MOTN feedings!!! I’m able to nurse her and put her right back in her bed, which is huge! I used to have to nurse her and then spend a good amount of time getting her back to sleep so I was only getting an hour or so of sleep at a time, but now I’m getting a couple hours of sleep at a time and it’s life changing.
This is the schedule that I aim for each day. Occasionally naps are inconsistent, but this is generally how it goes. The day revolves around nursing times, so even if awake times and naps are inconsistent, we always nurse at the same times (every 3 hours unless she’s hungry before then, which rarely happens anymore), so we have that to fall back on even if everything else doesn’t go according to schedule.
8:00 am (desired wake time) – nurse
8:45 am – awake time (diaper change, talking to her, swing, bath, etc.)
9:15 am – nap
11:00 am – nurse
11:45 am – awake time
12:15 pm – nap
2:00 pm – nurse
2:45 pm -awake time
3:15 pm – nap
5:00 pm – nurse
5:45 pm – awake time
6:15 pm – nap
8:00 pm – nurse and then straight back to bed
11:00 pm/12:00 am – 1st MOTN feeding
2:00 am/3:00 am – 2nd MOTN feeding
5:00 am/6:00 am – 3rd MOTN feeding
MOTN feedings happen around those times approximately. If she wakes up earlier or later than those times, I nurse her and put her straight back to bed. Basically MOTN feedings I nurse her on demand, but rarely does she stray from the schedule laid out above.
We haven’t been to the doctor to weigh her since her 2 week check up so I’m not exactly sure what she weighs now. But using our scale at home she’s weighing in at around 9.5 pounds. Girlfriend is growing SO fast! She is completely filling out the newborn clothes that hung off of her just a few weeks ago.
What We’ve Been Working On
Eat/Wake/Sleep Cycle – Still working hard to maintain the E/W/S cycle. This basic routine helps add so much structure and predictability to our days. In the last two weeks she’s been able to stay awake after feedings so we’ve been getting in good amounts of awake time. This has helped so much with getting her days and nights in order!
Desired Wake Time – I’ve started getting her up around 8:00 a.m. no matter what. So if she woke up at 6:30 a.m. to nurse, when 8:00 a.m. rolls around I still wake her up and get the day started. This helps so much to get a routine established. Knowing what time we still start the day helps me be able to plan a little better, which is so necessary with 3 other kids in the house.
Pause – The “pause” is such a great little tool! When she fusses or cries, instead of rushing right in and grabbing her, I pause and listen. A lot of the time she’ll go right back to sleep after a couple seconds. If she doesn’t, then the few seconds I took to pause and listen to her helps me to guess exactly what she’s crying about. Babies have different cries for different things so I’m getting to know her cries, which allows me to better address whatever the issue is.
- Bath time – She doesn’t cry even a little bit. She loves the warm water and getting her hair washed. I’ve been using the puj tub to bathe her, and I love it!! I hate having to bend over the bathtub to bathe babies so the puj tub makes bathing her in the sink super easy. Also, it’s foldable so I can store it flat unlike other bulky baby bathtubs.
- Milk – Girlfriend doesn’t ever miss a meal and is a great nurser.
- Snuggles – She’s so snuggly! She loves being held and snuggled.
- Being put down – I can put her down to sleep, thankfully, but when she’s awake she really prefers to be held. Which is fine with me! She’s not awake for very long, and I love holding and snuggling her while she is. Before I know it she’ll want to be on the move instead of being held so I’m enjoying her immobility while I can. Babies don’t keep!
- Diaper changes – She doesn’t love diaper changes. I’m not sure if it’s actually being changed that bothers her or the fact that she’s not being held. but either way, it’s not her favorite.
- Rock n Play – Can you believe she doesn’t like the Rock n Play?! I’ve heard it’s this magical baby swing that babies love, but Everly isn’t a fan. Maybe she’ll love it later, but for now she’s a Rock n Play hater.
I’m doing well! I’m starting to feel a little cooped up because #newborndays. Between nursing her every 3 hours and keeping her occupied during awake times and getting her to sleep for naps, there’s just not a whole lot of time for anything else. Which is ok! It’s just for a very short season, and I’m actually enjoying it a lot, but occasionally I find myself missing being able to go to the park for play dates any time we want or even talking on the phone with friends.
The postpartum anxiety has lessened significantly, which I’m so thankful for! I was starting to feel really crazy there for a bit. Also, the night sweats are gone! Hallelujah!!!!! They were so disgusting.
We’re learning to balance life with three kids plus a newborn, but that has honestly been an easy transition for us. We have so much structure built into the big kids’ days that adding a newborn has been pretty seamless. Overall the first month with Everly has been so so sweet. She is absolutely adored by our family and friends! Can’t get enough. We like her and love her so much.
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